Tension

The Moment you are in Tension
You will lose your Attention
Then you are in total Confusion
And you will feel Irritation
Then you will spoil personal Relation
Ultimately, you won't get Co - Operation
Then you will make things full of Complication
Then your blood pressure may raise Caution
And you may have to take Medication
Instead, try to understand the Situation
And try to think of a Solution
Many problems will be solved by Discussion
This will work out better for your Profession
Don't think it's my free Suggestion
It's only for your Prevention
If you understand my Intention
You will never come again to Tension

成熟的爱情

成熟的爱情...

有一位心理学家曾写过，一个成熟称得上真爱的恋情必须经过四个阶段，那就是：
- 共存(Codependent)
- 反依赖(Counterdependent)
- 独立(Independent)
- 共生(Interdependent)

第一个阶段：共存
这是热恋期间，情人不论何时何地总希望能黏在一起。

第二个阶段：反依赖
等到情感稳定后，至少会有一方想要有多一点自己的时间做自己想做的事，这时另一方就会感到被冷落。

第三个阶段：独立
这是第二个阶段的延续，要求更多独立自主的时间。

第四个阶段：共生
这时新的相处之道已经成形，你的他/她已经成为你最亲的人。你们在一起相互扶持，一起开创属于你们自己的人生。你们在一起不会互相牵绊，而会互相成长。

但是，大部分的人都通过不了第二和第三阶段，而选择分手，这是非常可惜的。

很多事只要好好沟通都会没事的，不要耍个性，不要想太多，要互相信任，这样，第二和第三阶段的时间就会缩短。

和所爱的人相遇相恋是非常不容易的，不要轻言放弃。

两人相聚是因为有缘，相知是因为有心，真的得好好珍惜这福分。希望能给大家一些启示和领悟，并惜缘。

我们会渐渐变成我们所爱的人。你和他本来没有相同之处，外表不相像，性格也南辕北撤,一旦爱上了，年深日久，你会惊讶你的眼睛有点像他的眼睛，他的微笑也有点像你的微笑。你们走路的步伐也有点相似，说话的语气也越来越相像。原来我们会变成我们所爱的人。

你本来喜欢脚踏实地的人，而他一向比较轻佻，但你们爱上了，他竟会不知不觉变成一个老实人，这个改变，连他自己也不曾察觉。他本来喜欢活泼的女孩，却爱上拘谨的你，这些日子，你竟会越来越活泼，你差点认不出自己。我们会逐渐变成对方理想中的人，这种改变绝对不是刻意的。两个人越爱得长久，气质也越来越相近。
你曾经以为他不是你梦寐以求的那种类型，然而，有一天，你会惊讶的发现，他已经变成你喜欢的那种类型，你不必再到处寻觅，他就是你要找的人。深深爱着一个人的时候，你原来真的会一点一点的失去自己，为什么你还会觉得快乐呢？大概是因为你在失去的时候，你把他的气质和微笑都赚回来了。

幸福很单纯，所以要很单纯的人才容易获得。

真爱就是不轻言放弃。

feel down in working

its been a long time since my last blog here....coz i have no time to online for a such a long time, life is not so bz here, but yet not enuf time for me to use lor...hope everyday got 36 hours to use then i think it will be better~~

getting so sad in working again, a fren told me jus now while having lunch together...teachers in school again complain my style in teahing again....so sad...reli WTF! feel so sad after listening to him telling me the truth, but i cant show them how i feel, coz there is someone ter with us...is my teaching style reli got problem? its almost end of the yr dy..all syllabus already done, so i have nothing to do with them more but jus exercises n exercises again n again every lessons....so they will feel bored, as well as me too...so sometimes i jus let them relax a bit...then, sure they will get a bit noisy, but i don think it is so over, but why they keep on complaining on me? am i only d 1 cannot control them? no...i don think so...when i was in other class...i oso saw them walking here n ter...n with their bags also sometimes, then why u don go n complain d others? jus bcoz u don c it then u only can judge on me? im not d only one cant control...do u think they reli easy to control? if u think so...jus come in n have a try...its my pleasure to lend u a lesson...

feeling down not only listen to wat they said bout me...feeling down coz u not understand me as well...how long have u been knowing me? don u know my style when i m down? then y u still talk like tat to me n don console me? feeling so dump in front of u, jus like i reli dunno how to control my EQ...i do know how to express my feeling...n my way of doing it i feel so comfortable with, then why to u...im useless? when im down, i reli cant feel ur caring on me...i cant even have a conversation with u...coz u r bz working..ya...im so free no need work n only know to think this n tat....pls....be fair...

feel so 'hak jai' recently...n im having my interview next thursday...is it the sign for me that im going to have a bad interview? i hope not....i reli hope i can pass...my life is full of so much miserables now...im somewhere....somehow...LOST~~

feel stress in working again

today..heard bout many rumors at school, made me feel down at school all day, plus din sleep well last nite, made my day more miserable...
day by day, feel tat teaching is reali not tat suitable for me...but in some other ways...i love teaching as well...so, it makes me feel so 'mao dun'...i felt dat i reli not so good in controling students, i not fierce, i don like to scold students, maybe bcoz of this, they don reli sacre of me...ppl will say dat i should be more firm n scold students whenever it is needed..but i reli don like to do it, i don feel dat scolding them will make things better, n yet it jus will ruin the relationship n make them don like to listen to my teaching...but not scolding them, sometimes they will tend to ignoring me...this is d thing that make me so sad recently...
i like my sons n daughters...i mean d class i handling...but, bcoz of my mercy, they start making so much noises whenever i enter their class...until today..i reali cant take it anymore, then i did something stupid n something dat i shouldnt do in front of them...feel so dump...n make me feel reli disappointed with them...i treated them so well but in d end...wat i deserve? maybe i shouldnt say like this, coz they r jus little children...13 n 14 yrs old only, but...it reali make me feel so sad...is it i treated them too well dy? should i change? yes...i think i should change...
things reli din go well with me recently...maybe i need another change? i need fresh air~~

纯纯的恋爱

以前。。。

因为暗恋，而看爱情小说

因为暗恋，而拼命写情书

因为暗恋，而学说更多好话

因为暗恋对方 所以想靠近对方

暗恋一个人真的可以什么都不计较

可以为他抄功课

可以当他的司机

为他折一千颗幸运星

代价就为了和对方去看一场电影

用打电话的方式向对方表白

用写信的方式向对方表白

用表白的方式向对方示爱

虽然失败但也是勇者

恋爱时，非常会幻想

幻想一起走沙滩，一起步入教堂

想着他时总是，好像变成天使不停飞

课本里的文字变成了他/她的名字

每个女生/男生的背影好像都是他

喜欢一个人，

会在房间贴满了她的照片

在书里放满他的照片

脑海里充满他的影像

想着对方，想到不舍得睡觉

梦里总是有他的出现

常常为了见她一面，常跑去厕所

因为他的课室在厕所旁边

常常为了见她一面，跑去和对方做同一辆巴士

常常为了见她一面，跑到他家附近兜

上课时常常望着他

看到他和异性谈话，就会有无名的醋味

热切的想谈恋爱

一天到晚看爱情小说

一天到晚听情歌

一天到晚沉迷在爱的海里

最后什么都可以忽略

常常为了成为对方理想的恋人

最后都迷失了自己

总相信着

爱情不分年龄的

爱情是不分种族的

爱情是不分国际的

爱情是不分男女的

恋爱后总希望能与对方天长地久

24小时都希望能与他一起度过

每天都包电话粥

想更了解他/她

为他付出是件幸福的事

男友/女友就变成了所有一切

但都忘了现实的世界

恋爱的付出可不简单

很多人已忘了恋爱的意义

希望这简单的文章能让一些人回味

回味那纯纯的恋爱感

希望有情人终成眷属

hari ini dalam sejarah

yeah~~wat would be the story for today? u will never guess...yeah~~finally i went to curl my hair this noon after school time...act ive been thinking of it since monday, when i saw a colleague of mine went to curl her hair during the holiday...it is so pretty..so since then, i was thinking of perm my hair for days dy, then finally in this very historical moment..at 1.30pm, i reached saloon there, n i decided to perm my hair...hahahaa....yes~~MY finally change her out look dy..then the Q is...how i look like now? i wish can upload a photo now but im using my bro's com...so, fres..wait me ya..sure i will upload a pretty photo of mine asap...yupe, i like my new hair style pretty much..am i look old now? no la...a bit more mature la...hahahaa(trying my best to cheat myself now)~~~

送给你一个故事，希望它能为你带来好运

从前, 有一个脾气很坏的男孩，他的爸爸给了他一袋钉子，告诉他每次发脾气或者跟人吵架的时候就在院子的篱笆上钉一根。第一天，男孩钉了37 根钉子。后面的几天他学会了控制自己的脾气，每天钉的钉子也逐渐减少了。他发现，控制自己的脾气，实际上比钉钉子要容易的多。终于有一天，他一根钉子都没有钉，他高兴地把这件事告诉了爸爸。爸爸说：从今以后，如果你一天都没有发脾气，就可以在这天拔掉一根钉子。日子一天一天过去，最后，钉子全被拔光了。爸爸带他来到篱笆边上，对他说：儿子，你做得很好 , 可是看看篱笆上的钉子洞，这些洞永远也不可能恢复了。就象你和一个人吵架，说了些难听的话，你就在他心里留下了一个伤口，像这个钉子洞一样。插一把刀子在一个人的身体里，再拔出来，伤口就难以愈合了。无论你怎么道歉，伤口总是在那儿。要知道，身体上的伤口和心灵上的伤口一样都难以恢复。
你的朋友是你宝贵的财产，他们让你开怀，让你更勇敢。他们总是随时倾听你的忧伤。你需要他们的时候，他们会支持你，向你敞开心扉。告诉你的朋友你多么爱他们，告诉所有你认为是朋友的人，你的行动可以从邮寄这个小小的故事开始。有一天，当这封信回到你的信箱里时。你会发现你有一个很大的朋友圈。最后，我要说：友谊的幸福之一，是知道了可以向谁倾吐秘密。如果你收到了这封信，是因为有人在默默地祝福你，因为你也爱你身边的一些人。如果你总说太忙，不能将这封信转寄出去，老是说：'改天再寄。'你将永远都不会去做这件事的。所以，不要找借口，静心的看看这片古老印度来的故事，然后决定为你的朋友们作一些事，从传寄这封信开始。当你说：'你是我的好朋友'时，请认真地说出来。当你道歉时请看着对方的眼睛。永远不要嘲笑别人的梦想。不要随便给一个人定性。说话时要慢，思想时要快。打电话的时候请你微笑，对方一定感觉得到。